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Saturday, August 2, 2014

Dear Author



It’s been a while since I’ve actively done anything with Lori’s Book Blog but I’ve decided to revisit because there are some things I need to express.  I’ve done a lot of thinking about the books that I have recently read, and I have to say that I feel like there are some things that I need to get off my chest.  So I felt the best way to do that would be to write a “Dear Author” letter to express my feelings on some of the latest trends in today’s books as well as give some basic advice I feel every author would benefit from receiving.  

I may catch a lot of backlash for this and that’s okay, but these are my opinions and my opinions alone.  I do feel like these are concerns a lot of the reading community has as well based on reviews I’ve read or discussions I’ve had with other readers. 

Dear Author,
I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work and effort you all put into your work.  It serves an amazing form of entertainment that helps me escape from everyday life as I get lost in your characters and your stories.  However, there seem to be a lot of “trends” lately that have become almost the norm.   I feel like it’s important to address these “trends” because quite frankly, they’re taking away from my reading experience.   There are 3 very important tools every author should use before publishing their books.  It’s beneficial to you as the author to publish your very best possible work because it will help further your writing career.  Readers will appreciate these things and will come back for more of your stories in the long run:
1)    Find a decent beta reader (or a few).  In case you don’t know what a beta reader is or does… it is someone who reads your story after your first draft.  They help you find plot holes or find things that may be necessary to add to the story so your readers will get a better grasp of not only the story itself, but of the characters.  They are specifically there to help you put out the best possible book you can.  If the beta reader is doing their job it can help make your 2 star read become a 4 star read.  My biggest advice when it comes to choosing your beta readers is to take your time to find those that not only work well with you, but who are not afraid to tell you when something doesn’t work.  I would caution against only using close friends and/or fans as they may not want to hurt your feelings or don’t want to see what others would see as potential problems.  Listen to their advice, you don’t have to do entire scene changes or anything drastic but maybe something as small as an extra line or even as small as one word, could make a huge difference. This may take a few books before you find your perfect team, but trust me… it will be more than worth it for you.  I have a lot of experience beta reading, I’m also a part of a great beta team so if you need good beta readers, I can recommend some or you can ask other authors who they use or recommend. You’ll know when you’ve found your team… you’ll see it, not only in your work, but also in how your fans respond to your work. 
2)   Editing your book is a MUST.  There are tons of great editors out there who will find your spelling, punctuation, and all other grammatical mistakes.  If you can’t afford to hire a reputable editor at least find someone who can go over your document and help out as best as they can.   Spell check is also a useful tool, don’t rely on it as it doesn’t always know the way you’re using a word… (ex ~ it could change “there” to “their” or “your” to “you’re”).  I am not entirely bothered by editing mistakes because of my experience with unedited manuscripts… so I’ve learned to over look a lot, but this is not the case for most readers.  Unfortunately, the past few months I’ve read quite a few books where the editing was completely nonexistent and I ended up spending more time trying to figure out what was supposed to be said than I did actually enjoying the story (commas can definitely change how a sentence reads).  Bad or no editing can ruin the experience for the reader which will only hurt you as the author.
3)   ALWAYS do your research and check for consistency.  Details are key, whether it’s writing about a specific place, life changing events, a medical condition, a career,  a specific dialect, or even a specific type of food… whatever it is… if it is not something you are intimately informed about make sure you not only do your research, but double and triple check it.  After you’ve triple checked, try and find an actual person to confirm your research with… whether it’s a fan of yours who is from the south and can translate how to say a certain phrase or you make contacts at the local police department where your story is taking place.   As much as we all depend on Google this day and age… it is not always correct.  This includes international authors who are writing about a specific country… make sure your facts about that country are correct.  Sometimes, something small as a way a phrase is used differently in different countries can take away from the story you’re telling.  (This also refers to beta readers and editors… if you are not from the U.S. but are writing about it… find an American beta reader and an editor that can Americanize your book for you.  Same goes for other countries.)

“Trends” that have become so normal lately, that readers feel they need to read reviews with spoilers in order to make sure it really is something they would enjoy:

1)    The Alpha Male.  (This is only regarding contemporary romance books.)  Now I will be the first to admit that I love a good alpha male.  I’m married to alpha male so I can compare and swoon all at the same time.  However, it seems that some authors are trying to “Out Alpha” other authors and I have to say that this is not working the way they want it to.  See, there is a fine line between an alpha male and abuse (in this case I am not expressing my opinion but speaking from experience).  A true alpha male loves his woman and would do his absolute best to never hurt her… this doesn’t mean that he won’t say something that comes off as cruel or hurt her feelings (Because believe me, you take the bad along with the good when it comes to alpha men), but his ultimate goal is to keep his woman happy.  This is why most of us readers find the alpha male so incredibly sexy in contemporary romance novels.  There are times when crossing that line works… by this I mean dark romance reads, captor/captive type romance reads, sometimes even sadism and masochism BDSM type reads.  There are many of them where the story line takes the characters to a place where that line is crossed… which, when done right works well for that particular story line.
2)    Cheating in books.   **Now before you continue let me be clear and say that I’m referring to a committed relationship between a hero and heroine where actual physical cheating occurs… let me also be clear and say this works differently (at least to me and most of my fellow reading friends) in standalone novels vs. a series that follows the same characters for more than one book.**  Okay this is not only a tough one but also a controversial one, because it realistically can come down to the readers personal preference.    Now, I’ll be the first to say that I HATE cheating in books but I’m not going to say that it can’t work in your story… and yes I mean, when done a certain way it can even work for me.  However… if you release a stand-alone novel that take us through a beautiful journey of the hero and heroine falling in love and in a committed relationship and then he or she cheats as the climax of the story... You’ve lost me… totally, 100% lost any interest.  When you use something like cheating in a book, it’s important to take the time to redeem the character.  It shouldn’t be… she took him back because she just didn’t want to be without him or he took her back because he’s always loved her and can forget this one mistake.  They should delve into the reason why it happened and how it’s being fixed.  You need to show us as readers that he or she will not cheat again which takes more than a few chapters at the end of the book.  I’m not saying it has to be so neatly wrapped up every little detail was hashed out, but at the same time if you’re cheated on… it’s a big deal and takes time and effort to move past it.  If you plan to write a few books revolving around the same characters and cheating is part of the story line… always take the time to end each book with a level of hope that things can be worked out (I’m not talking about cliffhangers here, what I’m referring to is if your heroine walks in on your hero in bed with another woman and you end the story there?  Chances are, you’re going to lose some readers… so add an extra chapter and it can be as long or as short as one paragraph but give us at least a tiny pinch of hope).  We want to believe they have an everlasting love when we read those last few words.  Depending on the number of books you write in the series revolving around those same characters try to have any and all cheating take place prior to the final book, you want that last book to show the reader how much the characters have grown and how they worked out their problems so we can see and feel that everlasting love.   (This is another place a good beta reader will be able to help you, if your story is taking you to the cheating road, find a reader that hates it and let them read it, see if it works for them or if there is something more you can add to make the actual cheating take a backseat to working the relationship out).
3)   Playboys/Bad boys… Here is one that has become extremely popular.  I don’t mind a playboy, bad boy, or even a man whore… because, let’s face it sometimes guys are just guys and do stuff for the sake of doing it. I’ll be the first to admit that it’s more than entertaining to watch a playboy trip over his feet trying to win the girl.    However, when you tell me that the Hero “Does NOT do love OR relationships” I need a reason.  It doesn’t have to be lengthy, but it has to be something I can figure out from his past.  Maybe he was raised in foster care, maybe he had a mom that took off on him, or an ex that totally shattered his heart.  If I read a book where the hero has a group of amazing friends, has never been in a relationship, and comes from a solid loving family but still says no to relationships and love, I don’t see him as a play boy, badboy, or man whore… I see him as a complete douchebag.  I’m not entirely sure when being a man whore just for the sake of being a man whore became sexy… now if he has a past and that past leads us to believe that he doesn’t understand love then it can turn it around… we’re more apt to say “aww, I want to fix him” if he has a reason for saying no to relationships.   If he is just a guy being a guy and hasn’t ever had a relationship… instead of saying he doesn’t do them, have him say he just hasn’t found the right girl yet or he’s sowing his wild oats until the woman destined for him comes along.  You want your readers to want to see him overcome his past and find that one special woman that he can love unconditionally.  You want them to root for him to find the beautiful happily ever after he deserves.
4)   Heroines…  We all love a good heroine, but lately some of our heroines have come off as either doormats, have no personality, are crazy to the point of being psychotic, or are just too perfect to be believable.  There are numerous ways to make your heroine one everyone can love… make her funny, make her kind, make her strong.  She can be almost perfect, but she needs a reason why she’s almost perfect. However, in all reality she needs a few flaws so we as readers can connect with her, but still love her.  She can be incredibly shy or timid, but we want to see her break out of her shell in a positive way (and I don’t mean sexually, which is fun but we need more.).  She can be incredibly broken, but again, she needs to come back to herself in a positive way.  Sometimes heroines are made out to be stalkerish or downright crazy and while that can be entertaining, it can also take away from the story.  You want your readers to love your heroine, you want them to connect with her, and you want them to root for her to get the happily ever after she deserves by being worthy of the hero.  Crazy, mousy, whiny, and stupid women don’t deserve the perfect hero you created.
5)   Cliffhangers… Now I’m actually laughing while I write this because y’all probably think I’m going to say don’t do them or I hate them… but I’m not and I don’t.  Cliffhangers can be almost fun… BUT, you also have to be careful how you use it.  Always leave your readers wanting more.  Have them read that last word and think “nooo” but in a good way.  You almost want them to be cursing you while saying “Oh, she/he is good!”  You want them feeling almost rabid for your next book.  But I will caution you and say… if you plan to write a series that contain cliffhanger endings – seriously think about making sure your readers are aware that your book is a part of a series. 

There are many tools out there to help you create an amazing story every reader can love.  Write your story with fresh ideas and memorable characters.  Depending on how you write your stories there is always someone out there willing to help and it is extremely beneficial for you to take advantage of any and all help.  The bottom line is… this is your story and the beauty in that is you can write whatever you want to write, but if your goal is to publish, you want it to be a story that people will not only talk about but love.  Use the tools you know about and ask other authors, bloggers, literary agents, publicists, or even readers for any recommendations regarding beta reading, editing, research, or even brainstorming.  Just remember, taking advantage of the help you can receive to help make your manuscript absolutely perfect… can put your name out there for not only readers and fans, but for traditional publishers as well!

Sincerely,
Lori


Saturday, February 1, 2014

Where in the world is Waldo... I mean Lori!

So... I've kind of been MIA since August.  I'm sorry for those of you who have been looking for recommendations but life has totally gotten in the way!

When I got home from Vegas, back in August, my body apparently wasn't a fan of going from super dry heat to lots of humidity and I ended up sick... I mean super sick.  I had pneumonia and it totally sucked.  Then, because school was back in session and we all know what a little petri dish elementary schools can be, my kids kept getting sick... and that seemed to go on for almost 6 weeks straight!  Plus, I think it's important that y'all know how much harder second grade is compared to 25 years ago!  My second grader has almost an hour of homework a night, plus a few extras depending on the week... so a lot of my time in between cooking dinner has been spent going over spelling words, vocabulary words, and math homework... which speaking of Math did you know that her school is already preparing her for multiplication?  AND, they no longer encourage them to memorize addition and subtraction tables?  So needless to say it's been rough... but I will say that my little smarty pants has gotten 100% on ALL of her spelling and vocab tests this school year (except one vocab and that was only because she got her words the day before the test because she'd been sick)!  Then, of course throw in the holidays and the fact that someone (who will remain nameless) somehow got me addicted to Pinterest (the crafty stuff) and my precious reading time was significantly cut.

Now, when I say I've grown an addiction to Pinterest, I should say I've grown a HUGE addiction and may have even asked people on Facebook to ground me from it... BUT... I've done a lot with the cool things I've found!  I've been slowly reorganizing and redecorating my house... and I've found almost ALL of my ideas on Pinterest.  If you'd like to follow me feel free... click HERE and it will take you to my profile... but be warned... I do not have anything book related there, and this is actually the first time I've publicly shared my profile since I didn't want those that have heard me say "I will never get on Pinterest" to get a chance to say I told you so lol.  But I'm so proud of the work I've done around my house with these cool ideas I've found that I don't care if I hear the I told you so's anymore! 

But life isn't the only reason my reading time has been cut.... the other biggest reason is because  nothing has really held my attention lately.  I haven't decided if it's because of everything else that's going on or if it's because I've been reading nothing but the same stories but different characters at every turn... but my interest has not been there.  Sure, I've read some good ones, even some great ones.... but the only ones I've really wanted to shout to the world that they needed to read, are books that I feel I can't review because I've beta read them, and in my opinion I feel it's a conflict of interest.  Plus it seems like everyone is using the same trends... boy and girl fall in love, boy is bad boy and girl is virgin... boy cheats on girl, girl forgives him... and they live happily ever after.  I'm seriously getting sick of ALL these heroes I read about being he-whores or never having been in a relationship.  I'm also sick of the heroines who are virgins and when they do it for the first time not only are they awesome to the hero but they have multiple orgasms and know how to do everything perfectly... Come on!  Give me a realistic experience here!  But what I've grown sick of most of all is the amount of cheating in these books lately!  It takes a special author to write these scenes a special way for the hero to redeem himself in my eyes if he strays. 

But my interest in spending every minute available to me reading has come back... All thanks to one amazing book I recently downloaded.  I'm not sure if y'all remember, but I have a serious weakness for Men in Uniforms... whether they're in our Armed Services, Police Offices, Firemen, FBI, DEA, ect... Add in a some edge of your seat suspense and a great little romance story and I'm hooked.  This book definitely had me hooked and I plan to share my review with y'all closer to the release date.  But if you're curious and want to pre-order or even just read the book description here is the info... click on the Title to take you to Amazon - Where Evil Waits by Kate Brady.  It's really good.... and let me just say that I can not wait to read another by Kate Brady!

I hope y'all have had a wonderful past few months, special holidays spent with your families, and have read lots and lots of books!!!

Check back soon, I might just have something special for y'all in a few days, maybe something I got while in Vegas!

xoxo ~ Lori

Monday, October 8, 2012

Best. Weekend. Ever.

Obviously I thought the weekend of September 28 - 30 was The. Best. Weekend. Ever!  I learned quite a few things - 

1. Colleen Hoover is super sweet for taking us all to an amazing concert... Thank you Colleen ♥

2. Tara Sivec gives the absolute best limo lap dances EVER!!

3. S.C. Stephens is as sweet as pie and I want to keep her forever!!!

4. CJ Roberts is awesome and wears the best freaking shirts in the world!!!

5. J. Sterling has the worlds best booty and can shake it like there is no tomorrow!!!

6. Rebecca Donovan has some kick ass dance moves!!

7. Jillian Dodd wears some of the most amazing accessories ever and I totally want to mimic her style!!

8. Sam Baer is the master at cleaning up dribbled beer, serenading me to a dirty song and snuggling in bed - Wow, that sounds dirty ;)

9.  Jenny Aspinall physically abuses cab drivers and gets away with it because she's so cute!!

10.  Becky Kimmerling totally rocks the adorable pregnant thing while walking 1000 miles before a limo finally picks up!!!

11. Tressa Sager is the best when it comes to finding treasures in my cleavage!!

12.  Christina Collie is one of the cutest girls I have ever met and we love her!!

13.  Sarah Hansen is amazing at ordering a Denver Omelet Kellan style!!

14.  Ho-Larious Mollie knows how to pleasure herself like no other!!

15.  Tarryn Fischer is the prettiest photo bomber I've ever seen!!

16. Luscious Leanne has some kick ass car dance moves!!

17.  Generous Gitte has amazing boobs!!

18.  The bouncers at The Cunt *cough cough* I mean Hunt Club on Rush Street know how to make a girl feel young!!

19.  The drunk dude at the Avett Brothers Concert is awesome!!

20.  My D-Bags tattoo knows how to jiggle all on it's own!!

Along with many more that are probably better left in Chicago ;)

Watch our slide show video below...



When it comes down to it, even though I'm still exhausted and recovering almost a week later, I wouldn't change a thing and can't wait to spend more time hanging out with all of the amazing people I met!



Thank you to all you lovely women for making this trip one of the most memorable!  I love y'all!

P.S. - See Leanne, Mary, Becca, and all the others that thought I'd end up arrested... I can totally do Chicago "Lori style" without ending up in handcuffs!

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

A special Breast Cancer Awareness Post




My amazing friend Jenny from Totallybooked wrote a beautiful post about a friend of hers and how her friend's Breast Cancer diagnosis effected her.  Her story is touching... it brought me to tears, it made me giggle, and it made me want to fly over to Australia and give not only Jenny but her beautiful friend Mariead a big hug! 

Go check out this beautiful post by Jenny over at Totallybooked (here) and remember that just getting checked can save your life. 

I'm sure everyone has either had a loved one diagnosed or were lost to the battle... It's not easy to accept for anyone and it's important that we all stand together and show our love and support to those who have fought and those who have yet to be diagnosed.  My love and support goes out to everyone who has had cancer touch their life in one way or another.  


Click on the link below to find out how to donate and help support awareness in your country:

Pink Ribbon International http://www.pinkribbon.org/ 

Think Pink!  
Let Awareness spread,
not cancer!


Thursday, May 17, 2012

9 Years!!!!

So today... May 17, 2012 is the 9th anniversary of the day I married my best friend.  A man who makes all my dreams come true.  A man who loves me, even though I'm crazy.  A man who thinks I'm beautiful inside and out.  A man who makes me feel special every day.  A man who gave me two of the most beautiful children a woman could ask for.  A man who supports my reading addiction.  Most importantly.... A man who would do anything to see me smile. 

I love him more today then I did the day we got married... if that's even possible.  I fall in love with him all over again each time he graces me with one of those beautiful smiles that melts my heart.  I love his sense of humor.  I love that he's not afraid to hurt my feelings but will do it gently.  I love how he puts out kids happiness above his own.  I love how willing he is to make sure we're all happy.  I love his addiction to stupid reality TV, because I can make fun of him.  I love his beautiful blue eyes.  I love his dimple, that hardly ever pops out unless he's smiling big.  Most of all I love him... Every. Single. Thing about him!

So Happy Anniversary Babe!  You're more than I ever could have dreamed for and I'm truly blessed that you picked me to spend a life time with!

Friday, April 27, 2012

E. L. James Google + Hangout.....

The amazing author of the much talked about Fifty Shades Trilogy E. L. James had a google + hangout with some UK Fans yesterday and my girl Gitte was one of them.  She was super excited when she locked a spot in the hangout with The Author of one of her Favorite books.  In order to get a spot in the hangout they had to submit a stand out review of Fifty... now I'm not going to share the entire email but I will share a quote from her review because it's just down right true for just about every girl and/or woman I know:
 "There is so much to love about Fifty. Christian is the guy that every girl would love to "fix"!! However, what makes him one of the best characters to read about is the fact that he is emotionally wounded to the point that he has built up all these walls around his heart. Yet he subconsciously knows that Ana is the girl for him"


I was so excited for her that... I walked around with a big huge smile on my face after I found out that she got the spot, and then got butterflies in my belly knowing she was going to be talking to E.L. in just a few hours.  The fact that I was so excited for her goes to show how over the moon she was.... It was absolutely adorable... we let her know that even though we couldn't be there with her... we were there in spirit, all virtually holding her hand. 

This would be an amazing opportunity for anyone but I have to say it was perfect that Gitte got a spot because... well... She is perfect!!!  Gitte is such a wonderful, loving, caring, and beautiful woman that she more than deserves every amazing opportunity that comes her way!  I absolutely adore her and I'm so glad that she was one of the fans to be picked!!! 

Check out the video from the google + hangout below... E. L. talks about her work from when she posted Fifty as a Fan-Fiction to publishing it and the books she's thinking about writing in the future.  If you're looking for any news regarding the Movie deal then I hate to break it to you that she does not talk about it... BUT I will post another little video at the end of this blog post....





I think it's freaking awesome that E.L. did this with her fans, it shows that fame has not changed her and that she is still a wonderful person who is just amazed and grateful for the opportunities that have presented themselves because of her amazing books! I have read the Fifty Shades Trilogy but I have not reviewed them yet... I'm still trying to decide if I want to review them here or not, I mean I do because there is a lot of fun things to talk about when it come to Christen and Ana... They're absolutely beautiful and I say that because neither of them are perfect, they both make mistakes... some worse than others... but they learn from those mistakes... and THAT is what makes their love beautiful.

Okay so I said I'd share another video that talks about the movie... First of all let me say that the fact that Ryan is reading Fifty Shades of Grey... is HOT and the fact that Ian Somerhalder is reading Fifty Shades of Grey.... is freaking smokin' hot!!!



Enjoy my fellow book lovers!!! Looks like we're going to have another author to take the world by storm with her fantastic books...

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

When to give up on a book....

When do you give up on a book?  When do you decide that you've given it your best shot?  I'm asking these questions to myself right now.

I'm in the middle of a book and I'm struggling with it.  It's not horrible, it's actually not even bad but at the same time it is bad...it's like a train wreck and I can't look away. 

Here are my issues: 

*The characters aren't bad, the author has introduced them quite nicely... However....they have so many flaws that I'm constantly raising an eyebrow or thinking "Are you serious?"  It seems like one minute they're acting their age but the next minute they come across extremely immature. When I say they have flaws I don't mean it in the sense that the character build up is flawed..... I mean it in the sense of if these were real people.  She comes off as too desperate and maybe even has a touch of a multiple personality disorder.  He comes off as extremely fun but also a little on the psycho side.

*The story line isn't bad, I mean who doesn't like an overprotective, possessive, alpha male every now and then?   But this one is a little over the top.  I just can't see the reality of it, I just don't buy it...any of it really.  Then there's the heroine and her use of endearments or her referring to specific parts...The endearments fit her personality but one in particular just annoys me to the point of rolling my eyes but her references to her body parts are so not what a woman like her would use nor do I as a female reader really enjoy seeing a heroine say.   It's not the I dislike the word but there is a place to use it.

I really wanted to like this book.  I really did!  It actually got an average of 4 stars and the description and reviews I've read tells me that it's a book I'd really enjoy!  But so far I'm not, I can't find the enjoyment.  I'm about 47% finished on my Kindle but I have to admit I wouldn't be upset if I didn't finish....actually I've considered just moving on to another book and possibly coming back to this one numerous times already.  BUT....like I said before - it's like a train wreck that I can't seem to tear my eyes from while I'm actually reading.


I'm not going to tell you the name or Author of the book other than to say this is the first book I've ever read of hers.  I won't tell you and here's why.... I think if I did it wouldn't be fair to the book or the Author.  I'm sure she worked extremely hard on her work and I admire anyone who takes the time to not only do something creative they like but they're proud enough to share that creativity.  I can not take that away from the Author and having said that I often get frustrated reading reviews where the author and their work is trashed for something the reviewer didn't like.  We all have our opinions and have the right to voice them but there is always a tactful way to voice that. 

Even with the knowledge that no one but myself will know what book I'm referring to, I still want to take the time to wish the Author luck and give her a virtual pat on the back for believing in herself and her work enough to share it with others!